I’ve noticed that when parents talk to each other there are a couple of things that always seem to come up in discussion: sleep patterns and eating and if they are toddlers you can count on verbal skills and possibly even potty training. For me personally, I often find myself measuring my son to the standards of others and become worried because he only says like 3-4 words when some of his peers are saying 15. But, the truth is, my son is not (fill in child’s name), my son is Silas Alden Dent and he will talk when he is ready.
Maybe it’s just me, but being on social media sites I often find I can not scroll through without a parent posting about their 18 month old saying 3 word sentences, or their not even 2 year old being fully potty trained and that is great for those kids and their parents.No, really, I am glad that their child is fully potty trained or speaking in 3 word sentences. It’s one of those, “It’s not you, it’s me” things. You see, when I say I am glad for them, there is still a small part of me that is envious or makes me wonder, “What’s wrong with my kid that he is still babbling and not saying 3 word sentences? Shoot, I’m lucky if he even says mom some days.”
Oh, God forgive me and my unbelief. Help me to see that it is all in Your timing and not mine. God, remind me right now of your sovereignty and your Word which tells me of your plans for me and my family(Jeremiah 29:11). So often I forget You are in charge, so I try to take control and push these expectations on my son, expectations that he is simply not ready to make yet. God, help work in me through your Spirit so that I might fully trust and rest in you with my son and all of his needs. Help me to push past my insecurities about my son and truly rejoice with other parents when they celebrate their children’s milestones. Your word say that we are to “Rejoice with those who rejoice, mourn with those who mourn” (Romans 12:15). Help me also to remember and rest in knowing that You have Your hand in all things and that You want whats best for me and my child.
So, instead of comparing my son to other’s, it is my goal today, and from here on out, that I will trust God that He is working things out in His perfect timing and focus on enjoying the precious moments in the season that I am in.