Conversations that start with sentences like, “Did you hear what _____ did last weekend?” ” Oh my gosh, did you see what ____ was wearing yesterday? I can’t believe she left the house wearing that!” “I heard _______ and _______ went on some exotic fancy vacation. How can they even afford that?” , end in gossiping about someone. Trust me, I know how easy it is to feel like your not guilty of doing this, or you rename gossip with “truth telling”. I have been lied to by the devil for so long and I have been so deceived by Satan that I actually believe that “telling it like it is” or “Just making a statement or observation” was innocent and not gossip. But the Lord has been showing me that regardless of what I call it, gossip is gossip and it is wrong. It is also so hard, for me at least, to not give into the pressure of your peers and to stand up, and therefore stand out by saying, “well I don’t really like talking about other people, so can we talk about something else?” But, the Lord calls for me to live my life for Him and to live by a different standard, set apart from the world, in the world but not of it. So. I want to go further than just saying, “gossip is bad, don’t do it anymore”, I want to discuss with you 3 reasons why we shouldn’t gossip.
1. It does NOT build up one another
I don’t think it’s biblical and important to build up one another, I KNOW IT IS!!!!!
1 Corinthians 14:26
“What then, brothers? When you come together, each one has a hymn, a lesson, a revelation, a tongue, or an interpretation. Let all things be done for building up.”
“Whoever thus serves Christ is acceptable to God and approved by men. So then let us pursue what makes for peace and for mutual upbuilding.”
“Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. “
I want to try my hardest to follow the Word of the Lord and I know what it says about building up one another and when I really take the time to think about gossip I realize just how damaging it is and how it does not serve the purpose of building up others, in fact it’s purpose is the opposite. Gossip is really tearing someone down to make ourselves feel better. I am going to try my hardest from here on out to take the time that I need to assess what I am about to say and I want to always ask myself, “What purpose does this comment/question serve? Am I building up or tearing down?”
2. It is a poor reflection upon both the gossiper and the person being gossiped about
This is something that just came to me in really thinking about gossip and the damage that can be done when we choose to partake. I think it’s pretty obvious that there is no such thing as positive gossip, so the damage that is done to the person you’re speaking about is obvious, but have you ever thought about what it says about you, the gossiper? If you think about it, it’s got to speak volumes to the person you’re talking to and the people around you who can hear or are listening to you. If we are professing and proclaiming Christianity then we need to be so very careful of how we act and the words that we allow out of our mouths. What example are we setting when, in one breath we proclaim a God who loves us and calls us to build up one another, and then in that same breath we choose to tear someone down with words of gossip? I would argue that gossip is such a poisonous substance to all involved. I don’t know about you, but I want nothing to do with such a toxic substance.
3. Simply put, it is a sin and the Bible Says SO
My last point does not hold much of an opinion or idea so much as it holds TRUTH. Not what I say about gossip and the trouble that it brings, but what the BIBLE says on the matter.
“Keep your tongue from evil and your lips from speaking deceit.”
“A dishonest man spreads strife, and a whisperer separates close friends.”
“Whoever keeps his mouth and his tongue keeps himself out of trouble.”
“Whoever goes about slandering reveals secrets; therefore do not associate with a simple babbler.”
“If anyone thinks he is religious and does not bridle his tongue but deceives his heart, this person’s religion is worthless.”
“Do not speak evil against one another, brothers. The one who speaks against a brother or judges his brother, speaks evil against the law and judges the law. But if you judge the law, you are not a doer of the law but a judge”
2 Timothy 2:16
“But avoid irreverent babble, for it will lead people into more and more ungodliness,”
I could go on and on but I think you get the picture.
It is my hope that you, my brothers and sisters in Christ will remember these three points the next time we find ourselves preparing to speak words of gossip, or around others who are gossiping themselves. Let us all strive together to glorify and honor the Lord by following His words and commands and build one another up for the good of His kingdom.