Godly Standards: Should We Hold Unbelievers To Our Standards?

This post came to me when I saw yet another post about breastfeeding in public covered vs. Uncovered.

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Disclaimer: Before I start this post I want to say that it is not my intent to start another raging war about which is better or more PC (Politically Correct) or anything like that and I just want to say breast is BEST regardless of if you cover up or not. I was unable to successfully breastfeed so I say breastfeeding at all is


So, now that I have started out with that disclaimer this is a post that is more about the question of, “Can we, as Christians, really expect non-believers to share in our desire of living out our life not according to the laws of this world (although we should obey the laws that have been set for us and honor and respect our president (no matter how hard it may be))?” I mean we can hold ourselves to whatever standard we see fit, and we can expect certain things of our spouse and children. But can we really expect those things from non-believers?

My answer is no, for two reasons.

1. Because I don’t think it is fair for us to hold someone to my standards.

Let me clarify though that just because I don’t hold everyone to my standard of living does not mean that I will never voice my opinion or stand up for what I believe to be true and Biblical. Perhaps one could look at it like someone expecting a baseball player to abide by the rules and standards of football. It would be absurd right? How can we really expect others to uphold standards that they do not agree with or believe in.

2. Because it will just drive you/me bonkers.

There is nothing more frustrating than debating or trying to persuade someone to believe and act how you want them to, and at some point I think you just have to come to realization that all you can do is control you and how you act, react and behave and you can try your best to hold your children to the standard in which you would have them live. After all, in the end when we see our Lord we will only have one person to account for, and that is ourselves. I still firmly believe that we should be sharing the gospel with others and try to lovingly point them to the Lord, but as for being convicted, the softening of their hearts,and receiving the Lord as their personal Savior, that is all in His hands. Isn’t it a “load off”, so to speak, knowing that it does not depend upon us, but upon the Lord and The Holy Spirit.

As Christians I think that we need to always keep 1 Peter 2:9-11 in mind. It says,

But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for his own possession, that you may proclaim the excellencies of him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light.  Once you were not a people, but now you are God’s people; once you had not received mercy, but now you have received mercy.  Beloved, I urge you as sojourners and exiles to abstain from the passions of the flesh,which wage war against your soul. Keep your conduct among the Gentiles honorable, so that when they speak against you as evildoers, they may see your good deeds and glorify God on the day of visitation.”




3 thoughts on “Godly Standards: Should We Hold Unbelievers To Our Standards?

  1. Hi Chelsea,
    Thanks for this post. I wrote something similar and I got a fair bit of abuse from it. I stated that we should be ‘judging’ Christians (in the sense of lovingly setting them straight when they sin, and not condemning them), but we are not here to judge un-believers. The church generally gets that wrong. We’re usually too scared to encourage another believer to repent, but we are happy to judge non-believers all day long.
    One scripture that I used to make my point was 1 Corinthians 5:12-13 which says, “What business is it of mine to judge those outside the church? Are you not to judge those inside? God will judge those outside. “Expel the wicked person from among you.”
    Just to be clear, I am not saying that we should throw people out of the church for any sin, this is talking about extreme unrepentant sins. Anyhow, it does show that we have no business judging those outside of the church.


  2. Well said, and welcome again to The Blogging For God group. As the Word Detective (aka, Me Thompson), like to investigate word meanings, the word “CONVICT”, as you pointed out so well, is not our responsibility a believers in Christ. John 16:7-15 speaks to the responsibilities of the Holy Spirit: #1. CONVICT #2. CONVINCE #3 DEMONSTRATE about sin, righteousness, judgement. Wow! The weight has been lifted from our shoulders! So what then, should we do, say, to the world as demonstrators of His Word? “…He will tell whatever He hears from the Father; He will give the message that has been given to Him, and He will announce and declare to you [US] the things that are to come” (John 16:13 b. AMP).


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