So, I recently wrote a post about how my family and I decided to say goodbye to Santa and we were met with a lot of skepticism, bewilderment and even some judgment (even on here as well) and we have other decisions that we have discussed as a couple that people will without a doubt see as mean, cruel, or even taking away from our kids childhood; but it has become more and more clear to me that it’s totally okay if people think we are party pooper’s or sticks in the mud because we are doing what we feel the Lord is leading us to do. Is what He has led us to do what is right for everyone else? Absolutely not. I have spent so much of my life caring too much about what others think or believe and too little about what I believe, feel, or think but I have to stop caring what others think and care about what God thinks and what He would have for me and for my family.
Parenting is already so hard and before the baby is even in your arms you’re being faced with parenting decisions: to circumcise or not to circumcise, breast or bottle, stay home or put him/her in daycare, crib or co-sleep, spanking or time-out, and the list goes on and on and on. I’m not sure why but once you get pregnant and people know the questions and it goes without saying (almost always) the questions will start and with the questions many times comes the unsolicited advice and judgments. Don’t get me wrong, advice is great, when it’s asked for, but sometimes it can be more detrimental then beneficial. I just read this post recently called , “To Build (or Break) A Child’s Spirit” which can be read here. The post is obviously about how we as parents speak to our kids but I feel like it can apply to anyone, like how mothers speak to other mothers about their parenting decisions. As mothers (and even fathers) we should be spending time building one another up and helping one another.
I’ll be the first one to admit I have not always been good at this, and I have for sure done my fair share of judging, but it’s time to stop all of that. It’s time to put aside all of our differences and support one another (one of my New Years Resolutions for 2015). Parenting looks different for everyone, and I think everyone envisions their parenting to look one way or another but often times it turns out totally different. I mean look at me! I was planning for a natural birth, ended up having a c-section, said he would never sleep in our bed and we’ve been co-sleeping for about a year now, said he wouldn’t take a paci and he had one by the end of the first night in the hospital. My point? Parenting sounds so idyllic and I think we all envision a certain rosy picture of what it will all look like, but the truth is parenting is messy and there is no right or wrong answer or way to parent. However, I do think it’s important as parents who are Christians that we surrender control over to the Lord and allow the Holy Spirit to guide us through the big stuff. As a believer and as a mother my duty in life, my job is to teach my child(ren) about God and raise them in a home that points them back to HIM as much as we can. So, in parenting our decisions should be made with Him in mind guided by the Holy Spirit. I think I might be babbling now so I’m going to leave you with my favorite verse in regards to parenting which is Proverbs 22:6 which says: “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.”