Love, Faith, and Grace: Learning to Balance It All

face of grace

The other day I started thinking about relationships that I have have been blessed to have over the 25 years I have been alive. The relationships that have come, have gone, and have blossomed into life-long friends. It made me think about how change is inevitable but it doesn’t have to make or break our friendships. That if we can master the art of extending and giving grace to others, we can remain peaceful in the face of adversity and change.

Finding the balance between faith and love has been such a hard road for me and I have to admit there have been times I have failed miserably at showing others the grace they deserve, and if  you know me personally and I have ever failed to give you grace I want to say I am sorry, and I pray that you will forgive me and I pray that the Lord would continue to lead me in grace and mercy.

For so long I have been so one sided and so focused on being right that I forgot that the Lord wants more than that, He wants us to be out in the world showing others true love, the love that comes only from Him, the love that completely encompasses others and just immerses those we come into contact with, for so long I have been concerned more with the “I’m right and what you’re doing is wrong” aspect and I should have been more focused on, “we are all imperfect but we are all deserving of love” aspect.

Then I entered the “love is the most important thing above all and we shouldn’t worry about the rest. Just love and accept everyone” phase. During that time I felt gay marriage was okay and was just overall more accepting and open about it and possibly would have even advocated for it. I may not have struggled with homosexuality myself but I kind of had the stance of approval and almost the “what happens in your home behind closed door is none of my business. So if you love a man, then great, if you love a woman, that’s fine too.

I’m not saying I have it perfect now but I think I have found a place where I can balance my faith, and love and do it somewhat gracefully, well that’s my hope anyways. I still get it wrong sometimes and sometimes my pride and ego get the better of me, but I feel like I can love people who are different from me whether it be in their sexuality, religion, or any other area in life while still honoring and adhering to my beliefs and hopefully do it with grace (only by His grace).

I feel like sometimes finding God’s grace and balancing faith with loving others means agreeing to disagree, knowing what subjects are worthy of putting up a fight and which aren’t, but ultimately always searching His Word and knowing where the Lord stands on the issue. It kind of reminds me of the  whole “WWJD” movement/franchise and although I know it is SOO dated it also evokes us to really think about what the Lord would do, or have us do in certain situations.

So, I guess what I’m trying to say is that we can love others without jeopardizing our faith if we ask God to bestow His grace upon us and in turn bestow that same grace unto others.

Luke 6:35-36 says,

But love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return, and your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High, for he is kind to the ungrateful and the evil. Be merciful, even as your Father is merciful.”

Romans 12:9 says,

Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good.

Ephesians 4:29

Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.

In closing might 2 Peter 3:18 be our prayer as sons and daughters of the Lord,

But grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. To him be the glory both now and to the day of eternity. Amen.


5 thoughts on “Love, Faith, and Grace: Learning to Balance It All

  1. I read your article because I saw it on my mil fb page. I was with you until you got to the gay marriage part. I do believe that we should love all mankind, but that does not mean that we should agree with gay marriage or the lifestyle. It is a sin! Make sure that you do not just quote the love scriptures, but take God’s word in whole.

    Marriage between a man and a woman was instituted by God with Adam and Eve. Genesis 2:24 states: “Therefore a man leaves his father and his mother and cleaves to his wife, and they become one flesh.”

    In Matthew 19:4-5, Jesus reaffirms this: “He answered, ‘Have you not read that he who made them from the beginning made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one’?”

    Never does God say that sexual love between 2 men or 2 women is right! Never!
    The world would have you to believe that if you do not accept everyone that you are a bigot.
    John 15:18-27
    If the world hate you, ye know that it hated me before it hated you.
    If ye were of the world, the world would love his own: but because ye are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world, therefore the world hateth you.
    Remember the word that I said unto you, The servant is not greater than his lord. If they have persecuted me, they will also persecute you; if they have kept my saying, they will keep yours also.
    But all these things will they do unto you for my name’s sake, because they know not him that sent me.
    If I had not come and spoken unto them, they had not had sin: but now they have no cloak for their sin.
    He that hateth me hateth my Father also.
    If I had not done among them the works which none other man did, they had not had sin: but now have they both seen and hated both me and my Father.
    But this cometh to pass, that the word might be fulfilled that is written in their law, They hated me without a cause.
    But when the Comforter is come, whom I will send unto you from the Father, even the Spirit of truth, which proceedeth from the Father, he shall testify of me:
    And ye also shall bear witness, because ye have been with me from the beginning.

    I hope I have not misread your article. I know you did say that during that time…
    Please except this reply from my heart.


    1. Sweetie I think you misread….I do not agree with it anymore…for a time in my life I did but the Lord opened my eyes and taught me that I could still love my friend without agreeing with his lifestyle. Maybe you read up to where I wrote that for a time I did agree with it and then stopped….


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