Stress, Mess, Forever Blessed

First off Happy Thanksgiving! I hope everyone had an amazing day with an abundance of food and waistlines that were elastic!!!

So, it’s been a while since I last posted and a lot has happened!!!! For starters we are expecting baby #3 and we found out it’s a girl and we are naming her Stella Ann!!!

Our boys are growing up so fast!!! We just celebrated Silas’ 5th birthday with a fun Batman party at our house surrounded by family and a few friends and we carried on our tradition of taking him to the pumpkin patch and Steak N’ Shake!

Our Tobias is growing like a weed and has been adding words to his vocabulary almost daily! He is into everything and is quite the funny one!! The other day I went to the restroom alone (which I should have known I was asking for trouble) when he walked in on me looking like this

I laughed for a good minute and then it was bath time (P.S it’s mascara not poop).

Although Silas has not been officially diagnosed we did have him see a child psychologist who said she thinks he may have ADHD and in working with our pediatrician we put him on clonidine which is technically a blood pressure medication but can also be used in children with ADHD to slow them down. It has helped him calm down a little bit and at least get more sleep which he desperately needed. We made the decision to place him in the special ed class in one of our local schools and it has been such an amazing amazing blessing to us. He has the most amazing teacher who loves and adores him and has been helping him master his colors and work on tracing and counting and so much more! When he’s at school I am at complete ease because I know he is in such great hands! It’s not uncommon for me to receive messages from his teacher like this one!

This life can be so stressful and it is often messy (which means I look a hot mess a lot of times) but I am so truly, amazingly, happily blessed.

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Parenthood: Through The Struggle There Is Joy

So I think we can all agree that parenting is tough in general. On a normal day the struggle can be so real…like, “it’s 9 AM but is it bed time yet?” struggle or 


The struggle is hard and it’s real and it has gotten even harder for us right now as we begin the wait to get our oldest son, Silas who is 4, evaluated for what we believe could be a central auditory processing disorder (CAPD). What this means is that we believe he can hear what we are saying but something is getting lost in the understanding and comprehension. Which inevitably leads to issues with attention, obedience, and following directions. So the struggle of parenthood is tough, coming to terms that something might be wrong is even more tough…. but that’s not what this post is about, this is not it at all! This post is about the hope and joy I catch glimpses of throughout each and every day that I am blessed to spend with my boys. The joy is found in the insatiable smiles, laughs, and affections I receive from both my boys. It’s found in the incessant “Momma, I love you” that come out of my sons mouth. It’s from the adorable conversations I hear Silas have with himself and the way his eyes light up when he gets excited about something. So when times get tough and I’m stressed or worried about what’s to come for us I remember all those glimpses of joy that my boys bring me each and every day. So, all my mommy friends reading this (and the daddy’s too) when times are hard and your feeling those struggles overwhelm you, think about the glimpses of joy your children give you each and every day! Trust me when I tell you it doesn’t take long for you to figure out which moments give you that glimpse of joy. 

Bring Back The Village


I’ve heard this age old adage before and for the longest time I’ve rolled my eyes 🙄🙄 and thought maybe for some people but not everyone…. but the longer I am a mother the more I realize the truth of this saying and the need for it to be a reality and not just some talked about fantasy. Right after giving birth, whether it’s your first or sixth, you have people come visit and many will ask, “Can I do anything to help?” If we are honest with ourselves, and vulnerable, the answer is almost always going to be “Yes!” When I had my second son in February I struggled with postpartum depression, much like I did with my first son only this time it hit immediately and not 6 months later. When people asked how they could help I would say “Oh I think I’m alright right now.” But I wasn’t…. I could have used someone taking Silas for part of the day or for the day so I could catch up on sleep. Or someone showing up and cleaning the dishes for me or just showing up with lunch to talk and just spend time with me. It’s so hard for us to swallow our pride, be vulnerable, admit we need help and then actually accept said help.It seems a culture has been built up for us moms, especially in the US, to carry around a sense of guilt. Guilt about anything and everything. We feel as if we, and by default, our children, are burdens. And maybe it’s just me but even when I am reassured that we aren’t being a burden or that it’s okay that my son is running around like he’s got no sense about him, I still feel a sense of guilt and judgement even. But, that’s an internal problem that stems inside me…. until I wrap my head around a village mentality and become vulnerable and enter a village community I know I won’t overcome feeling like a burden and feeling guilty.
That’s where, for me, MOPs (Mother’s Of Preschoolers) comes in. This past Tuesday was the first meeting and I’ve never participated in MOPs before but I decided to give it a try. When I drew a name out of the bag and was assigned to a random table I was honestly nervous about the entire experience… especially since I ended up not having any friends come with me. I sat down at my table and the small talk began and before I knew it I was having so much fun! It turns out one of the women in my group does decals and personalizes things so I came over to have her personalize something for me and we had an impromptu play date! When I went to leave I was putting the boys in the car and mentioned that I was headed to our local Dunkin Donuts to meet a friend for coffee who doesn’t have kids and she stopped me and said “Why don’t I keep Silas (my oldest son)?” I was astonished and the guilt and burden feeling quickly popped up and I told her I couldn’t do that to her, but she insisted that she didn’t mind so I did something I don’t usually do and I said “ok”! I was so shocked by her kindness and generosity to help me out and I was surprised by the feelings of guilt and burden I had and realized that it shouldn’t be this way. We should all be helping each other out however we can and I’m dedicating this time of fellowship and learning with MOPs to not only allowing others to be part of my village but to being the village to those around me.
Whose in your village? How can you help be a part of the village? How can you let others be the village to you? We don’t have to do this alone. We are NOT a burden. Our children are not a burden. We can lend a helping hand to others.

Bring Back The Village!

I’ve heard this age old adage before and for the longest time I’ve rolled my eyes 🙄🙄 and thought maybe for some people but not everyone…. but the longer I am a mother the more I realize the truth of this saying and the need for it to be a reality and not just some talked about fantasy. Right after giving birth, whether it’s your first or sixth, you have people come visit and many will ask, “Can I do anything to help?” If we are honest with ourselves, and vulnerable, the answer is almost always going to be “Yes!”  When I had my second son in February I struggled with postpartum depression, much like I did with my first son only this time it hit immediately and not 6 months later. When people asked how they could help I would say “Oh I think I’m alright right now.” But I wasn’t…. I could have used someone taking Silas for part of the day or for the day so I could catch up on sleep. Or someone showing up and cleaning the dishes for me or just showing up with lunch to talk and just spend time with me. It’s so hard for us to swallow our pride, be vulnerable, admit we need help and then actually accept said help.
It seems a culture has been built up for us moms, especially in the US, to carry around a sense of guilt. Guilt about anything and everything. We feel as if we, and by default, our children, are burdens. And maybe it’s just me but even when I am reassured that we aren’t being a burden or that it’s okay that my son is running around like he’s got no sense about him, I still feel a sense of guilt and judgement even. But, that’s an internal problem that stems inside me…. until I wrap my head around a village mentality and become vulnerable and enter a village community I know I won’t overcome feeling like a burden and feeling guilty.

That’s where, for me, MOPs (Mother’s Of Preschoolers) comes in. This past Tuesday was the first meeting and I’ve never participated in MOPs before but I decided to give it a try. When I drew a name out of the bag and was assigned to a random table I was honestly nervous about the entire experience… especially since I ended up not having any friends come with me. I sat down at my table and the small talk began and before I knew it I was having so much fun! It turns out one of the women in my group does decals and personalizes things so I came over to have her personalize something for me and we had an impromptu play date! When I went to leave I was putting the boys in the car and mentioned that I was headed to our local Dunkin Donuts to meet a friend for coffee who doesn’t have kids and she stopped me and said “Why don’t I keep Silas (my oldest son)?” I was astonished and the guilt and burden feeling quickly popped up and I told her I couldn’t do that to her, but she insisted that she didn’t mind so I did something I don’t usually do and I said “ok”! I was so shocked by her kindness and generosity to help me out and I was surprised by the feelings of guilt and burden I had and realized that it shouldn’t be this way. We should all be helping each other out however we can and I’m dedicating this time of fellowship and learning with MOPs to not only allowing others to be part of my village but to being the village to those around me.

Whose in your village? How can you help be a part of the village? How can you let others be the village to you? We don’t have to do this alone. We are NOT a burden. Our children are not a burden. We can lend a helping hand to others.

I Was Plagued… Maybe You Are Too?!?

                                         


                 Ever since, and even before having my second son I’ve had energy issues and just completely exhausted all the time. I required a nap every single day around 2 and didn’t have the energy to take the kids out to the park or run errands for our family. I also struggled with GI issues that made me feel like I couldn’t go anywhere without fear that my stomach would get upset. I started hearing about a company called plexus and after a few months I decided to sign up as an ambassador to try the products and sell it to maybe help others get healthy and for the possibility of helping my family become financially free! 

            Since starting plexus my energy has skyrocketed, my stomach issues have diminished greatly and I am finding that my midday Dunkin Donuts runs and naps aren’t needed anymore! I have been able to almost completely give up soda and I find myself reaching for water instead of other drinks! I made a paycheck in my very first month, enough to cover my products and even a little more than that!  

          So, you might be asking yourself, “What is plexus?” I’m glad you asked because I would love to tell you! 

Basically, Plexus is a health and wellness company that has products that are designed to help improve your health. The whole idea behind Plexus is getting healthy from the inside out. Getting to a healthy weight is only a side effect of true health. SO MANY issues are caused by an unhealthy gut and unbalanced blood sugar, so when you start to heal the gut and stabilize blood sugar, a lot of those issues go away! 

              If you have made it this far, first and foremost, thank you for being a loyal reader and follower of my blog! Second of al I want to correlate this back to the meaning of my blog and why I am writing all of this. So the point of my blog, and the goal of my life is to honor and glorify God and that doesn’t exclude my newest business endeavor. I want the Lord to use me through this business to not only help others to fee better and get healthy from the inside out but also use the opportunity to share the gospel with my customers and anyone who decides to join me on this journey!  I know God will bless my business if I give it over to Him and use it as an opportunity to share His Word! I would love to talk to anyone whose interested in knowing more about plexus whether it’s the business or product side! You can comment here, email me at cleonard292@gmail.com or find me on Facebook and send me a message or just go to my website and take a look around or place an order! Preferred customers get a 10% discount and an autoship is set for the same day every month (can be canceled any time after the first week). You can sign up as an ambassador for just $34.95 to sell the products yourself (no monthly requirements but to commissions qualify your backup order has to be on and you have to have 100 Personal Volume to commission qualify) or to just get the products wholesale (there is a way to set up backup orders on so it automatically charges your card and ships each month at the same time). You can purchase a welcome pack which is a one time purchase that is even less than wholesale value! 

Truly hope to hear from you and pray it will bless you as it has blessed me!

Life As Of Late

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It’s been a while since I last posted and a lot has happened from finding out the gender of baby Dent #2, to my husband going from a temp worker of 5 years to employed at the company he has been loyal to from the get go, to zoo adventures, birthdays and more!!!!

For my 26 birthday, which was September 14, I decided all I wanted was an early anatomy ultrasound which ended up being the day after my birthday! And we found out…..

ALL BOY!

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So, in March little Tobias Edwards will be joining us and I could not be more excited!

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Before my birthday, in the beginning of September, we got word that my husband was finally going to be hired on as a permanent employee and no longer a temp which means so many wonderful things from pay raise, to benefits, insurance and finally paid vacation and sick days which means we don’t have to worry about missed pay when Tobias is born! I am so incredibly proud of him and so glad that his unfaltering loyalty and his persistence and insistence to stay put when everyone, including myself, pushed for him to find another permanent job. He never gave up and it is finally paying off!

My hard working man!!!

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October is one of my favorite months because the two most important people in my life were born and even better only a day apart! So, as an early celebration for Silas’ birthday we decided to take him to the zoo and boy was he excited!

The face of joy and pure excitement!

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He had a blast even though many of the animals seemed to be asleep or in hiding! He really loved the petting zoo and he even got to ride a pony!

He was skeptical at first but I really think he loved it!

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So on Friday, October 23, our little man turned 3 and the entire day was all about him starting with a birthday breakfast at the one and only Waffle House!

The very excited and happy birthday boy!

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Then we had a relaxing day before heading to the pumpkin patch which is a birthday tradition we started last year! Silas even picked out his own pumpkin all by himself!

Here he is picking out his little pumpkin!

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After that we took him to Steak n Shake for dinner and of course we had to get a picture of him wearing the Steak n Shake hat!

My cute and adorable 3 year old!

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The very next day was his awesome TMNT party spent with all of our family! He had a blast eating pizza like his ninja buddies and then he had a yummy cookie cake which wouldn’t be cool if it wasn’t ninja themed so of course we obliged!

Because he is a Ninja in training of course!

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Our family was so generous as always and thanks to them Silas is basically set for the fall and winter and even got some cool toys as well!

Silas in all of his ninja coolness!

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Saving one of the most exciting pieces of news for last! Right before my birthday (about a week before or so) we decided to make an addition to our already ever expanding family and we put a deposit down for a sweet puppy! She is a morkie which is a Maltese and Yorkie mix! Her mom is about 5 pounds and dad is 6 pounds and she was the runt of the two and so she will probably be 4-5 pounds! She is adorable and we will be getting her on Halloween (just a few days now)!

Everyone meet our new addition, Lady Bird.

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Anyways, sorry for so many pictures but that about sums up what has been going on in the life of the Dents the past few months!

Give Me Christ, or Else I Die

“Gracious Lord, incline Thine ear;
My request vouchsafe to hear;
Hear my never-ceasing cry;
Give me Christ, or else I die.

Wealth and honor I disdain,
Earthly comforts, Lord, are vain;
These can never satisfy:
Give me Christ, or else I die.

All unholy and unclean,
I am nothing but sin;
On thy mercy I rely;
Give me Christ, or else I die

Thou dost freely save the lost;
In Thy grace alone I trust.
With my earnest suit comply;
Give me Christ, or else I die.

All unholy and unclean,
I am nothing but sin;
On thy mercy I rely;
Give me Christ, or else I die

Thou hast promised to forgive
All who in thy Son believe;
Lord, I know Thou cannot lie;
Give me Christ, or else I die

All unholy and unclean,
I am nothing but sin;
On thy mercy I rely;
Give me Christ, or else I die”

This song seems to ring more clear and true than ever in my mind lately. So many things have been making headlines and Christians have been on attack now more than I can ever remember. I question what the future looks like for my children and realize if I only teach my children one thing it doesn’t need to be educational it needs to be spiritual. My children need to know above all that Christ is the only thing that will save them and give them everlasting life. They need to be sure in their faith and strong in their convictions because this world is not calm, not forgiving, and not accepting of anything that goes in opposition of the flow of their agenda. I have a feeling that soon, if not already, going against the “norm” is going to cost us as believers a lot more than just raised eyebrows and the cold shoulder. Doesn’t matter how it’s justified, it is what the future may hold. I may not be able to change the wave of the future, but I can teach my children to stand up and stand firm in their beliefs and in Christ in the good times, in the bad times, and beyond. I don’t want my children to have a watered down faith like many Americans do today, a faith that accepts social norms despite what the Word tells us. The Word does not promise easy, it does not promise us that we will fit in or be liked. It tells us, on several different accounts that we will be persecuted and that we will not be liked.

“Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness.”

James 1:2-3

“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is good and acceptable and perfect.”

Romans 12:2

“Therefore, preparing your minds for action, and being sober-minded, set your hope fully on the grace that will be brought to you at the revelation of Jesus Christ. As obedient children, do not be conformed to the passions of your former ignorance, but as he who called you holy, you also be holy in your conduct, since it is written, “You shall be holy, for I am holy.”

1 Peter 1:13-16

“Have nothing to do with irreverent, silly myths. Rather train yourself for godliness; for while bodily training is of some value, godliness is of value in every way, as it holds promise for the present life and also for the life to come.”

1 Timothy 4:7-8

“Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world—the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride in possessions—is not from the Father but is from the world. And the world is passing away along with its desires, but whoever does the will of God abides forever.”

1 John 2:15-17

This is what the Word has to tell us, this is the truth for us as believers if we chose to stand firm and live life by HIS standards instead of ours.